I only worry about one thing – the future. The problem is that everything is in the future. I have bills but I don’t worry about the bills, I worry that someday I won’t have enough money to pay them. I don’t worry about my kids, I worry that someday they will do something that will have a negative impact on their lives.
Whether you call it worry, anxiousness, anxiety, panic, fret, concern, agonize, stress, torment, over think or to lose sleep over something, these feelings are the opposite of what I want in my life. I want Peace, tranquility, serenity and calm. (It’s interesting that I can think of more words that express worry than I can of peace.)
Worry affects how we feel, think and behave in a negative way and has a subtle effect that sneaks up on us when we least expect it. It distracts us and causes us to do the wrong things. Sometimes I find myself doing things in response to worry but I don’t recognize this until someone asks me why I’m doing it. When I really step back and look at my thoughts, I see it comes from a worry that snuck in when I wasn’t looking. Worry pops up at times and it’s all about the future and out of my control.
The Illusion of Control
I’ve always told my kids there are two things you should never worry about; things you CAN control and things you CANNOT control. If you can control something, fix it and stop worrying about it. If you cannot control something, leave it alone and trust that GOD will take care of it.
The reality is that EVERYTHING is out of your control. People who were starting a new business on September 11, 2001 did not factor in the horrible events of that day into their business plan. We cannot plan enough details into life to never be surprised at what comes our way. So we have to acknowledge that GOD is in control of everything (even the tragic things) and that he has a plan. Just because we don’t like or understand the plan does not mean he doesn’t have a plan.
I’m 52 and GOD has never let me down. Even in my darkest hours of the worst days of my life, I still felt GOD was with me and He carried me through it all. In times when I had practically nothing and there was no relief in sight, He brought a solution that proved to me nothing is too big for GOD. So why after 52 years of GOD taking such good care of me do I allow myself to worry about anything?
I love the song “I Will Look Up” and the line that says “I will look back and see that you are faithful. I’ll look ahead believing you are able.” GOD has proved himself faithful all my life and I am absolutely confident that He is able to do anything and loves me like a son, so why worry?
The driver of all our worry is Fear. We sometimes call this our “Comfort Zone” but it’s really Fear. Fear that things are not in our control, that something bad might happen, and basically fear of the unknown all lead us to worry and take away our peace. But I have found a solution – LOVE.
When I think of how much GOD loves me and I focus on the truth of God’s word, my fear and worry goes away. When I remember that GOD loved us so much that he gave his own son to die so we might know GOD personally, it makes the worries of this world seem tiny and brings me peace. When we put our hope in GOD, we are not disappointed because He never gives up on us. We can be bold and confident as long as we put our hope in Him and His love for us, and not our feeble attempt to control things or know what will happen in the future.
Life is challenging so we need others around to help when we allow ourselves to worry. People who can sense when we’ve lost our focus and are allowing worry to cloud our vision. People who will remind us of the truth when they see we have allowed ourselves to spiral into anxiousness. Someone to encourage us and hold us up when we are just too beat down to try one more time. Join us as we plan this years DFW Technology Prayer Breakfast and let us support you as a group who knows there is plenty we could worry about but we will put our HOPE in the Lord and He does not disappoint.
* If this does not make sense to you, it may be because you do not know the GOD of whom I speak. If that is the case I would be glad to meet with you and tell you about the GOD of the Bible and His son Jesus Christ. Contact us at [email protected].